How does it really work?

I've been thinking about how people choose whom to be married to.
As a Christian I've heard all kinds of views and opinions, they're as diverse as the colors of a rainbow. I don't know what to believe anymore.

How do you know?
Someone said, you'll know.
I know but, how? 
Are you going to hear a voice saying, this is the one?
How exactly.

From the Bible we saw that God brought all kinds of things to Adam to see what he would call them. He named them but none was found fitting for him. Only when God made a woman from the man, and brought her to him that he saw her and called her woman. And she was the one fit for him.

Some people say, that's how it's going to be. God will bring people around you and ask you to choose.
Some say, oh you must hear from God. Don't just marry anyone you see without hearing from God otherwise you will marry a Leopard or a Lion. And you'd be sorry.

Can I like someone and make my decision?
Will God be mad at me if I say, I want this one?

Will God stop me from marrying the wrong person or will he just watch?

Apart from the account of Adam, there is no where else in the Bible where God brings a wife for a man. The closest I can find is with Rebekah. The servant of Abraham prayed and asked God to lead him to the house of his master and make his journey to be successful. He called on the God of his master and God answered him. There is no other way to explain how he met Rebekah except that God arranged their meeting.

So God can do that. And he still does that today.
I know of people who say God spoke to them that, this is you wife, this is your husband.
I absolutely believe that.

So how does it work?

Where I stand now is that, it's important to have your desires and present them to God and allow God work out the circumstances and situations that lead to you meeting and knowing who your spouse is.
Be open to hearing from God, in the way that God speaks to you. He will not use a special way to speak to you that how he always has been speaking to you.
Then get other people's view on your choice, weight them carefully before going ahead.
If everyone you love and trust is saying don't go ahead, seriously consider their advice. It's very rare that they will all be wrong and you're the only one that is right.

One last thing though, don't feel pressured by age or comparison. Don't let the news of other people's wedding unsettle you. Everyone has their time and their person. Finally, waiting on God for this matter may require copious measures of patience and persistence. If you really want to hear from him you will have to wait until he speaks. But when he speaks you can run with that word.

-ONWARD!

the beautiful union

We attended a wedding ceremony today. Aunty mee ting's daughter's wedding ceremony at Faith Methodist Church in the Hui Sing area.



So far its the second wedding ceremony that i've attended both incidentally in a Methodist Church. So it followed a familiar pattern.

I like wedding ceremonies, it marks the beginning of a beautiful union that God himself instituted. Its also an outward expression of the love and desires of a man and a woman who love each other and have desired to do one of the most unselfish things on earth; get married.



I like the proclamation of marriage as instituted by God and the vows, they're just so sacred yet these days we somehow find loop holes and the divorce rate is steadily climbing.

It made me think a little about how my married life would be. I know for a fact that I won't want to be divorced ever. No matter what because of those vows, and that proclamation and the fact that God is involved.

Recent events have opened my eyes to the reality that almost all problems relation to relationships can be solved quite amicably without resulting to anything rash and plain stupid.

Was watching a show and discovery home and health about these couple with 8 children and mentioned that i would like to have at most 3 children. My own family is made up of 5 children all talented in different ways with all totally different views in life and attitudes and that fine but i think i like a rather small family but maybe later on in life would love to adopt a few children like Mrs Pitt AKA Angelina Jolie seems to have done.

Marriage is something i look forward to but not anxious about at least for the moment. However I know some people who are over due to be married, ahem ;)

~shalom~